The fact that gay men who practice unprotected anal intercourse are largely versatile in their anal sex roles likely fuels HIVs rapid spread among the population.
Pretty damning article, I have to say. But its not far from what I’ve been postulating in private so far. I did voice this out on Twitter before but people are saying that its probably quite stigmatizing to generalize or focus the scrutiny based on your identity as a gay man. What do you think? Is being “flex/vers” a mark of identity for you as a gay man/boy? Or simply just a sexual behaviour?
Recently, I have been in correspondence with a very frightened young Singaporean boy, barely 20, and still an NSF. He confided in me that he just got diagnosed with Hepatitis B, Herpes Simplex from a past wrong choice of having unprotected sex. His parents found out; they have been supportive but his mom has been crying all the time. I did my best to allay his fears & worries about the future, to not worry, and all that, while awaiting his on going blood tests.
He told me this afternoon he just tested positive for HIV.
The more I think of it, the more I get depressed. I am seeing history repeat itself in this kid here. I was once in his shoes. I also had the full flush STD infections. I also feel angry, angry because I never listened to the warning signs in the past, because I was imbued with a sense of reckless entitlement, that I thought I was invincible, that I would never get sick. History is repeating itself. I am angry at my very being. I wish I could turn back time. But I cannot.
I was at a loss when the boy told me the HIV news, simply at a loss. So I asked for help on Twitter on what I should say to the boy. I have to thank you guys who’ve helped. I couldn’t have answered it on my own.
I’d like to share the reply with you, my dear reader, because, I feel this can also help you too, to always persevere & fight on, for every challenge we encounter along our journey that is life. I’ll try to cheer up after this.
Gam Zeh Ya’avor.
גם זה יעבור
This Too Shall Pass, whatever it is. Here’s to the rest of our lives to live & keep the faith.
Thank you for reading.
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