Hi folks, I will be reposting the HIV stories from the previous year interviewing HIV positive Singaporeans & Malaysians (I personally consider us the same country) from all walks of life. Realised some of the stories perhaps were overlooked by many online readers and I would love for you to read these very personal stories from living, breathing HIV positive individuals.
This is my personal initiative called the It Gets Better HIV Stories Project.
With this project, I do hope to achieve and let people in our country, and around the world know that us people living with HIV are people like you, too. We could be your brother, sister, mother, father, son, daughter, coworker, neighbour, doctor, policeman, waiter, priest, or even your life partner. HIV dies not discriminate age, gender, religion or social status. HIV today is no longer a death sentence but it can ruin your life plans for the future. Always be vigilant. Stay safe.
Recently, I have been in correspondence with a very frightened young Singaporean boy, barely 20, and still an NSF. He confided in me that he just got diagnosed with Hepatitis B, Herpes Simplex from a past wrong choice of having unprotected sex. His parents found out; they have been supportive but his mom has been crying all the time. I did my best to allay his fears & worries about the future, to not worry, and all that, while awaiting his on going blood tests.
He told me this afternoon he just tested positive for HIV.
The more I think of it, the more I get depressed. I am seeing history repeat itself in this kid here. I was once in his shoes. I also had the full flush STD infections. I also feel angry, angry because I never listened to the warning signs in the past, because I was imbued with a sense of reckless entitlement, that I thought I was invincible, that I would never get sick. History is repeating itself. I am angry at my very being. I wish I could turn back time. But I cannot.
I was at a loss when the boy told me the HIV news, simply at a loss. So I asked for help on Twitter on what I should say to the boy. I have to thank you guys who’ve helped. I couldn’t have answered it on my own.
I’d like to share the reply with you, my dear reader, because, I feel this can also help you too, to always persevere & fight on, for every challenge we encounter along our journey that is life. I’ll try to cheer up after this.
Gam Zeh Ya’avor.
גם זה יעבור
This Too Shall Pass, whatever it is. Here’s to the rest of our lives to live & keep the faith.
Thank you for reading.
Everything you need to know about HPV (Genital Warts) in this PSA video here.
Question: “Hi. This may seem like a stupid question but.. can you get any sexually related diseases when you are the one getting BJ-ed?”
My Answer: Its not a stupid question at all! The risks of getting HIV are very small if you are the one being fellated by your sexual partner, although, from expeience and testimonies, the risk of catching gonorrhea from being sucked is moderate, especially if the person has a penchance for swallowing and the bacteria might be festering in his/her larynx. If you have reason to fear that you might have gotten a Urinary Tract Infection or whatevet, its best to see a doctor at the DSC clinic. In the meanwhile, drink lots of cranberry juice to cleanse your urinary tract.
Other than being infected with HIV, I also hold the dubious “honour” of being coinfected with Herpes Simplex (how Paris Hilton) and the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV), also known as the “Full Flush”.
This is my Story of how I live with HPV, primarily. Was my first time being interviewed by this project done by Action For AIDS in their focus on Singaporean youth who are just beginning to explore their bodies (and of others) and chronicles the experiences of young men & women in Singapore who have to live with STDs. You can read our stories in the link I’ve provided you.
We are faceless and anonymous, but we aren’t silent.
I end this post with an excerpt from the article about my advice on reaponsible sex:
"Full-flush or not, Zack flusters with “guilt and moral concern” and advices others to “never bareback,” but if you must, “only do it with people whose condition you are aware of and people you trust,” using himself as an example stating he looks healthy and fit- more so than most individuals, but you "should never trust a person based on his looks alone,” after all- you do not know what cards he could deal you."